A lot of people these days are looking to get into relationships, not the “child’s play” kind oh, the real deal! The one that’ll lead to something more “forever” than just “for-the-mean-time”. But the thing is, a lot of self growth has to be accomplished before you know you are ready to share your world with someone, and not everybody realizes this. You MUST be able to offer a person the best possible version of yourself before asking for their best in return!
If you find that you’re guilty of one or more of the following, take some time out to re-evaluate and improve yourself…prevent any disaster relationships that may happen. Like the saying goes “Prevention is better than cure”.
#1 You cant compromise; You don’t want to see things from the other person’s point of view, to you, Its either your way or the highway…This is a sign of being too self absorbed/selfish, people with this trait find it hard to love someone else wholly. A relationship is about “we” and not “i” learn to consider the other person and meet him/her halfway.
#2 You’re not sensitive to other’s feelings; you say/do things just the way they enter your mind and don’t give a hoot if the person gets hurt or not.
#3 You ALWAYS want to have the last say in an argument; It is necessary to be humble and let some arguments go, it shows you have respect for the other person.
#4 You have a problem with people invading your space; you can’t cope when you’re not alone. Face it! Your significant other will always be around at some point or the other, if you can’t deal with it, then you should rethink
#5 You’re not open to change; you believe you are who you are and no one can/should change that. A relationship is all about growth and change, its not possible that a relationship won’t change you, and if you’re too stubborn to allow for that change, you’re gonna have a really hard time.
# 6 You would rather hold a grudge, bask in the”glory” of the silent treatment and decide to let go only when you feel like/when it suits you, instead of learning to let things go and be happy with your significant other.
#7 You can’t make sacrifices for those you care about; put yourself in inconveniencing positions sometimes just to make someone you care about happy (it could be a family member or a close friend) making sacrifices is one of the many ways you can express your care for someone.
#8 You still play recklessly and flirt with other people! If you’re REALLY looking to be committed, well, its time to cut all ties with your “play buddies”, you can still keep the communication lines open tho, but no more playing “hanky panky”…if you know what i mean. Keep a decent lifestyle! 🙂
#9 You don’t communicate your feelings; you would rather keep them in mind than speak up so it can be sorted out, communication plays a HUGE role in the success of relationships…it is said that suppressed anger leads to bigger problems and that is a KNOWN FACT! Not talking about what bothers you doesn’t make it go away, it just increases your anger and postpones your outburst, so its best to avoid future conflict by expressing yourself now!
#10 You find it hard to TRUST; If you are generally not a trusting person, a relationship is gonna be extremely difficult for you, you should learn to give the other person the benefit of the doubt and give room for the other to prove their trustworthiness.