“So he summoned courage, gathered his balls, encouraged his heart, grew the liver and got the guts”. It was a normal “come over to the house” invite for Erica or so she thought, but that wasn’t the motive behind the invite. “I have come to grow fond of you, I see you as a total part of my everyday life and I will want you to be a permanent part of it” Josh said., “I don’t understand what you mean” Erica replied, “I want you to be my girl.. girl friend” Josh stuttered.. lets pause it here …
Humans are designed in such a way to want. The unending increase in our insatiable demands influences our relationship. Most guys want to hit on every girl they come across. (Nigga get that attitude in check!.) The truth is that you cannot date every girl you come across. You have to be friends to some, brothers to others and lovers to the rest. So if you ask me what’s going through my mind as I write this, here it is: It’s okay to be in the zone once in a while whether the friend, family or whichever zone you find yourself in.
No need to jump right in and start pursuing every girl in sight! Start small. Start by doing things dating-wise that you normally wouldn’t have done in the past, such as openly flirting with a girl whom you find attractive. You don’t need to be all over her, but be forthcoming with the facts that u are attracted to her. Whether she reciprocates or not really isn’t the point (but if she does, the better!). Just allowing yourself to freely express how you’re feeling in the moment with a girl whom you are attracted to is the point of this write up.
If you notices that you have been relegated to the friend zone don’t feel too bad after all it is not the end of the world and more so don’t cut out communication as most people will do or create a wall between yourselves. It might just be that he/she is telling you to tighten up or try something out of the box. Just see it as an opportunity to reach out and launch out again. On a related note, rejection is natural phenomenon; you will just have to find a way of being comfortable with it. I don’t want to launch into some semi related, offhand stories about how some of the most successful business tycoons out there faced multiple instances of rejections before stumbling on their winning formulas (I am pretty sure you have heard plenty of those! ) but you should know that even the most attractive, charming, seductive, witty guys (girls) out there have had to face rejection at one point or the other….no one person is capable of charming everyone (even if from the onset, it seem they can!)
So u asked a girl out. She says no, or she prefers you as a friend or sees you as a brother. So what? Life goes on. There will be other girls. But, if you never ask her out, you will never know if she would have said yes, and that, to me, is worse than being flat-out rejected.
Yes, that’s what I said! Stop over analyzing every little thing in your mind that a girl/guy says or does! This is what women do, and you see how much trouble it causes them? When you’re constantly second-guessing yourself and the situation, you get nowhere
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